By Warsha Autar
Dear No one,
How was your month? Hopefully it was better than mine – I felt disappointed I couldn’t add anything to an MUN training, my grades weren’t as high as I had hoped, and I texted the person I liked, only to get friendzoned. Hard. Long story short, instead of feeling like a failure because I didn’t have a plan for my future, I ACTUALLY failed when I was trying to make something of my future.
Now before you get worried about my wellbeing, I am fine! I promise. I was able to deal with it all by doing the following, I hope these will help you too.
1) Allow yourself to feel it. The pain, the embarrassment, maybe even a few tears. I know it sucks, but if you ignore these feelings, they will most certainly come back to haunt you later if you suppress them now.
2) Talk to your friends about it. Or mentors, or your tutors, hell, even the strangers at the bus stop will do. If you talk about your situation and explain it, you will be able to gain a better understanding of yourself and how you feel about it. The listeners may even be able to give you some helpful advice on how to deal with it.
3) Listen to music. Whether the songs are sad, or happy, music heals the soul. So put those speakers on blast and sing along. You can even dance a little to shake those worries off.
4) Accept it and move on. This is what happened. You came, you saw, you failed. In life, there are rarely any do-overs, so don’t go sitting around waiting for one. Take a deep breath, say your last words about the whole ordeal, and go on with you life.
I can hear your thoughts right now. “Haha Warsha, easy for you to say. But my mistakes are much more terrible than yours and they are much more complicated.” To that I say, BULLSHIT. No matter how terrible your failures are, you shouldn’t get caught up in them. I can promise you this, in three years from now, you’ll look back at this situation and wonder why you were so worried at all. So please, deal with failure in a healthy way. And if you still don’t believe me, let me tell you about something I read a while ago: “ F.A.I.L. is an acronym. It stands for: First Attempt In Learning.” So as a student with years of learning to go, wouldn’t it be silly to get infatuated by only your first attempt?